Write about your first crush.
The concept of a first crush is portrayed as a significant and unique experience, often considered intimate and personal. While some flaunt it, others prefer to keep it a secret. A crush, defined as an intense infatuation, can arise from puberty and is not limited to any specific age or gender. It often occurs in social contexts, and while some may see it as trivial, it can lead to complex emotional situations, especially in the context of relationships and societal expectations. The phenomenon highlights both the fleeting nature of human attraction and the societal pressures surrounding love and relationships.
Describing the first crush! What an idea!! Well, it is something that one has once in a lifetime. Some people try to flaunt it as a trophy, while for some, it is not a thing to discuss publicly. They consider it a private affair that doesn’t need to be publicised. Why? The answer is obvious. Those who do not want to share their most treasured experience or try to keep it well-preserved secret are mostly those who consider their first expression of soft and sweet memories personal. From their point of view, it is right, and this should be respected.
Crush literally means to press something or somebody hard to break or squeeze. What is the relevance of using “crush” to express one of the nascent feelings towards a person or thing? It is probably because of the overpowering feeling that occurs in a person for anyone. It does not necessarily mean an attraction for the opposite sex. Crush is necessarily not a feeling of “love” for an individual of the opposite sex. It is an infatuation that is phasic but appears strong and intense.
Biologically speaking, a growing child passes a stage of puberty. It is a stage in a child’s growth when the body system starts secreting specific hormones that cause structural changes. Though they become sexually mature, they are not mentally mature. This is a phase when mutual attraction starts. It is instigated in a congenial atmosphere where frequent interaction is usual. Like in schools where both boys and girls get education on the same campus or even in the same class.
It has been taboo for a fairly long time, but with time, the boundaries are waning fast. It has both types of effects on the growing children, and it can be debatable. Yet, it is unending and unfruitful, for some have arguments in favour while some have opposite views, and both, at times, are staunch. It should, thus, be left.
Not only in schools, but anywhere in society, it can happen. During a marriage event, at any social gathering, or in any congregation, a crush can be seen. It is a natural feeling that no one denies.
The “first crush” is a misnomer. It doesn’t need to occur only once. The phase recurs as and when a new individual with unique features and physical or mental ability comes across. The phase is brief and is temporary. It is not comparable to “love”. Though phrases like “love at first sight” are often used and treated as a fixed feeling, it is not.
Human nature, like any other thing, is fleeting. It seeks constant change and monotony as a big no. It is natural. Binding with a particular thing or person is very difficult. It is a human tendency to go for a better thing. It can be the beauty of physical appearance, mind, and thought. The binding is possible when nothing is expected, and the parties in a bond are satisfied. It is a stage of inertia. It does not give a chance to experiment and evolve.
A crush is not limited to the age of an individual, either. The only limitation is the age of infancy and childhood, during which a child is physically immature. It can also occur in later life and is equally common in both genders. It would be wrong to say that a particular gender is more prone to it. Social stigma is the limiting factor. Gossiping about it is the favourite pastime of humans. They draw extra pleasure in scandalmongering and captiously talking about those who are in such a situation. Ironically, the narrative changes with the swapping of places.
The most “vulnerable” is the intermediary stage when an individual enters puberty till marriage. The marriage is considered a guarantee of safeguarding social norms. As has been said above, human nature is ever changing. It is contrary to marriage, where a couple are bound to live together in a relationship for the rest of their lives. This compulsion gives rise to many complex situations that include extramarital relationships. Though the bandage is loosening, still, many things result in unpalatable situations, including domestic violence and even killing. This is something very serious, and society needs to think and change.
To run a society, it is necessary to have some rules and guidelines. Marriage is an institution which was mooted out in antediluvian times to legitimise the relationship and also give a name to the relationship. It was probably because of not only humans’ fleeting nature but also because of the possessiveness. The strong feeling of “mine” and “thine” gives rise to many more complications. Legacy and property inheritance are but a few things which need a legitimate relationship. A child born out of fornication will have many problems, and the child is cursed to bear the brunt of it, even though not responsible. The convolution of post-nuptial life is the result of many things that have been resolved had it been tackled properly. A strained relationship casts bad aspersions on a growing child. It must be addressed by those who are party to it.
Talking about a crush is rosy and considered funny. It must not be taken lightly. The feeling is indeed uncontrollable, and the stage is vulnerable; it needs serious thought. Many of us would argue that what’s the point in turning a light thing into a complex and serious one? It is, nevertheless, a thing that needs serious consideration.
The society is yet to be opened. Many preconceived notions and proscriptions are still prevalent in modern times. People have different notions in watertight compartments, which are worn out and fictitious. In such a situation, a crush sometimes turns into a nightmare. Shackles of inhibitions asphyxiate and sometimes kill an individual, figuratively, though.
Life is a cyclical process, but the birth and death of an individual are not. An individual is born once and dies once. There is no choice, nor can one relive any moment. Nature has not given the option of rewind or erase. It is not the individual’s choice to have all good things and discard unpalatable things. Difficult and challenging situations are essential to relish good things. It is the darkness which teaches the importance of light.
People like reading romantic novels and fiction. They have created imaginary characters like Romeo and Juliet and draw pleasure when the characters pass through pain and sufferings. They try to annexe the characters with them. The reality is in juxtaposition. The artificial, man-made situations can give no benefits. It has to be taken seriously.
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