What’s something most people don’t know about you?

One thing common to all is self-praising. It is a trait that every human individual likes the most, irrespective of gender. Select people are obsessed with this. Unconsciously, they become vexatious and, with time, envious. They are habitual captious and aimlessly criticize everything everywhere without weighing the situation.

Feelings are abstract. Human beings are a mix of feelings. Good, bad, tolerable or intolerable, happiness or gloominess – the feelings are intrinsic to human psychology. The degree varies but feelings of any sort are constant.

People who want self-glorification tend to amplify their traits to the extent of gaudiness. Although it looks ludicrous, they do not stop. They want to be surrounded by the army of obsequious and sycophants. The encircling bootlickers do not let fresh ideas or truth come near to the person, shearing them from the stark reality.

Broadly speaking, people, based on accepting criticism, can be of two types. Some can digest their criticism and try to improve themselves, while some can’t. The latter types are haughty and egocentric, sometimes to the extent of being narcissistic. These people consider themselves perfect and don’t need to change. They advertise their deeds, nature, behaviour, or any personality trait and wish it to be acknowledged as a model of perfection. They always try to satiate their whims and ego.

The people of the former type are humble, decent, and, to some extent, timid. They belong to the school of thought that does not believe in garrulous self-boasting. They humbly take their praise and organically feel shy of self-praising. In modern terminology, they are termed as “unintelligent”. Despite giving their best, they often do not get their due and feel low. Though suffocated, they seldom express their indignation. This gradually percolates down their psyche to condense and make them heavy with their “feeling inferior” complex.

Both extremes are not good and nauseating. People of both kinds are prone to mental weakness of one kind or the other because excess of everything is bad. Excess rain causes pluvial flood; scanty water leads to a position of draught. There are, nonetheless, people who fit in between the two. They are moderate and have a rather indifferent view, not loquacious nor do they hide their emotions. They believe in modestly accepting credit for good work and feel sorry for their misdeeds. Be it a small work or a mega event, success has many fathers. This is why they often skip credit. This category of people can be grouped into a moderate category and for all practical purposes, it is desirable and good. Are the remaining two categories, nevertheless, “successful”? Let us dive into it before reaching a conclusion and replying to the question of the daily prompt.

The current Era is of cacophony where the synergy of various harsh sounds creates high pitch noise. The din is encountered everywhere, in every field. Loudness has become a vogue. People feel elevated in crying and artificially honking about their petty but fake “achievements”. True achievement becomes subdued and suppressed. Decency has taken a back seat and those who can harshly quack about themselves are treated successful. In such a chaotic situation the decent one can’t be in the race, but s/he is pushed to be a part of the crowd.

Out of the two categories discussed above, the silent one who does not advertise one’s achievements is among those who are silent performers like the foundation stone of a grand building. Their fine qualities are for others to see and judge. The qualities that distinguish them from the crowd are dedication and passion for giving the best. Like unsung heroes, they focus on the result of the assigned work or the work at hand. 

The quality of not showing off creative talent or hard work, amalgamated with interest and attachment towards a task causes decent people to often scamper their due credit. It is because of this that such people and their talent stay in the back seat, waiting for time to divulge them. Even their close friends or relatives fail to justify their talent or quality.

Talking in the first person, I would say that no one can claim about anyone’s perfection or imperfections. It is necessary to see the actual perspective, put one’s feet in his/her shoes, and comprehend the condition before judging a person. There are many facets of a personality. To appreciate the quality is not a big task, provided, one feels and experiences the quality and quantity of work. Personal ego needs to be set aside before judging. Shrouded under the miasma of self-appreciation, it would not be a fair trial. The miasma disrupts the sight. Expecting fairness from a haughty person who habitually amplifies his petty qualities as a work of magnum opus and is not ready to acknowledge the good work of others will be futile. The lopsided evaluation and the habit of keeping oneself on a high pedestal hamper the vision of prudence hence a faulty judgement.

A humble person never tries to thrust his nobility. Good qualities outshine despite the vicious efforts of an egoistic fellow to overshadow them. The vexation hinders their work. Instead of splurging energy on useless efforts, vexed needs to improve his quality and persona.

It, thus, is unnecessary to think about who knows one’s hidden qualities and who doesn’t. It is even more fictitious to tell anyone about his ability. It is the responsibility of others to assess or judge impartially the quality of a person. A seed will germinate and grow into a tree in an appropriate environment, even if not noticed or cared for. This is the law of Nature and should be way of our life too.

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