Name your top three pet peeves.
Pet peeves are an integral part of the human psyche. They can be harmful if uncontrolled. Fortunately, it can be managed. Peeping a little deep to understand its causes. People, though, do not like corruption but peevishly accept it as an essential evil. Some haughty egocentrics try to intimidate an honest and simple person. Nonetheless, it needs to be remembered that humbleness does not mean weakness. In the paragraphs below the points are discussed to understand it.
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Key Takeaways
- Peeves are inevitable emotions that humans experience, and while they can be managed, they cannot be completely eradicated.
- The story of Lord Rama illustrates that submissiveness does not equate to weakness and that patience is vital when faced with peeves.
- Every individual has unique emotional reactions, making it essential to approach situations with respect and understanding.
- Irresponsible behaviors, such as pet owners neglecting public space, contribute to societal peeves and require strict rules for better order.
- Although perfection is unattainable, striving for near-perfection requires honesty and a balance of both good and bad behaviors.
Introduction
Peeves! Hmm…
Peeve is the emotion that almost every human feels or faces. Claiming to conquer anger or peeve is virtually impossible. One can manage, but can’t be completely free from it. Even the God incarnated as humans had had anger. The degree will vary, but like other emotions, it is there as an essential element. So, claiming to “conquer” is a boastful statement. (Psychology Today)
Lord Rama and the sea
While preparing for a siege on Lanka, crossing the vast sea was a problem. Lord Ram decided to persuade the sea for passage. He prayed to the sea. Even after three days’ pursuit, the sea didn’t heed. Lord Ram lost his patience and became infuriated. Sometimes it’s power that brings arrogance back in line. He instructed his younger brother Laxman to bring his bow and arrow. He intended to dry up the sea and shatter its inflated ego. Terrified by His rage, the sea emerged with folded hands and apologies for his sin. The sea told Lord Rama the way to cross the vast sea. Thus, the sea was bridged.
(a) Submissives are not weak
The story is not a mere religious tale but teaches a few lessons to humans as well. It tells them to avoid being haughty and consider others meek. The submissiveness doesn’t imply weakness in the person. The peeve can, at times, be fatal.
(b) Peeve is not a solution
On the other hand, it also tells that peeve doesn’t solve the problem. One has to have patience. It is important to respect others and recognise the authority or position of the person in a particular role. The polite, respectful approach always pays.
(c) Each of us has self-respect
It has to be remembered that everyone’s self-respect is of utmost importance. It is a quid pro quo. Respect given is reciprocal to respect earned. It is, thus, essential to be cautious while interacting with others. Care must be taken not to hurt others’ sentiments or respect. Lord Rama set an example. He requested the sea first.
Diverse human nature and behaviour
Every individual is different, and so are their behaviours, with a variety of attitudes. Because of innumerable different minds and thoughts, actions are also different. It results in different perceptions. There is no common cure. Each problem is unique; its behaviour is different. So, every problem needs a situation-specific and/or individual-specific solution, as human complexity is important.
(a) Emotional quantity and behaviour
The degree and amount of each element in an individual make what they are. They can be quiet and composed, jovial or serious, shallow or deep. They can even be irascible or adjusting. It all depends on the amount of a particular emotion. The peeves also differ according to the suitability of a particular trait to a recipient. A selfish attitude does not agitate some people. Similarly, a few find it absolutely normal if someone is using corrupt practices to mint money without considering others’ difficulties.
(b) Enquiry window
It can be understood by observing a person sitting behind the window of enquiry. Different people ask repeated questions, and some become restless if they do not get a proper response. Their problem is quite understandable, but the woe of the answering person behind the window also needs to be considered. Thanks to modern computer technology, where chatbots do the job and reply to repeated queries without getting peevish.
(c) Brain vs machine
Humans are prone to irritation because of their highly advanced brains. It receives and processes the information to give a result. Humans are not free from emotions. Contrary to humans, a machine doesn’t get tired nor does it have emotions. It can handle this type of situation. Human interactions are bound to yield reactions and counter-reactions.
Irresponsibles
Irresponsible acts and deliberately ignoring the public hygiene and convenience are but a few things that cause difficulties. Thinking above the law, they consider themselves above all. This is not only worrying but casts an aspersion on their upbringing.
(a) Letting pets defecate on streets
With due respect to “animal-lovers”, it is pertinent to mention that the term “animal-lover” is mainly used for dogs. The thing that irritates is the behaviour of the pet’s owners. They usually walk with their pets during morning hours and let them defecate on roads and pavements. Worst still, their “pets” sometimes are dangerous and aimlessly hurt the passersby or children. When requested to control their pet, some haughty persons become angry taking it personally.
(b) Reckless behaviour
People who behave recklessly cause trouble for others. They behave in a most irresponsible way without caring about the difficulties of others. Unadjustable persons cause irritation. Increasing incidents of road rage and resulting casualties concern a sensible person. A person can’t take others for granted. Personal liberty has its limits. It ends where others start. People share space and all the natural things that are essential for life. It can never be the property of a handful of high-headed persons. It has to be used judiciously.
Rules for orderly functioning
Rules are essential for regulating society and its people. Codified rules, laws and provisions for punishment are provided to deter the haughty and delinquent persons and serious offenders. It maintains a check and balance on uncontrolled negative emotions or deliberate serious offences.
(a) Law-abiding
The rules are persistently becoming stringent due to such intentionally serious crimes. They cast aspersions on society as a whole. It affects law-abiding citizens who happily abide by the rules and cooperate with government authorities. The point is, it is necessary to control the wild emotions and peeves. It is ridiculous that despite such strictness, a few individuals are determined to disrupt public order. They challenge law enforcement. It causes anger in common people.
(b) Masters of tamed animals
Disturbing news of serious injury to children and aged persons by the “tamed” dangerous dog highlights the risks involved. A callous flouting of the rules can become life-threatening. It annoys and raises questions about such callous behaviour. The master of the “delinquent” animals needs to be taken to task.
(c) Corruption
People talk a lot about corruption, but when it comes to them, people are seen compromising with it. Even if they are not happy, they accept it as an established norm. Not only this, but they unhesitatingly accept it as a “necessary” social evil.
(d) acceptance
Preaching to others is easier than acting on it. Corruption has forcefully made inroads in society. People have accepted it unwillingly. The peeve is that an honest law law-abiding person suffers. The double standard is annoying, which is like all show and without substance. People portray themselves as ideal persons, but in reality, they behave contrary. The dubious behaviour causes raised eyebrows.
Absolute is not possible
Yes, absolute is impossible, but near perfection is achievable. Artificial and fake behaviour has no shelf life. It puts the person on the docks. In the ideal situation, people need to follow an honest and neat life without an iota of haughtiness. It is practically not possible. A perfect blend of good and bad is essential and universally accepted. It is natural. Even God, in incarnated form as a human, permits it. In a war against an unjust and cruel enemy, everything is fair to defeat him. The endeavour should be to focus on an acceptable limit. It is not that difficult.
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